T.J.

January 14th, 2019

Soooooo – with WINTER officially here, I’m still waiting for the SNOW; not “the snow” — “THE SNOW”!!! There IS a difference, as you all know – I remember the old days where Noreaster’s would come one after another, and we just called it WINTER. Of course, those were the days before “DRAMA REPORTING” came in and everyone on camera with a mic and tried to do ANYTHING for ratings… we’ve seen weather anchors faking INTENSE winds for the camera as people walked behind seemingly in another overlapping universe. We’ve seen the “predictions and warnings” for storms when they’re actually just “watches”, with nothing ending up on the ground but our feet, tires and no snow between the two.
I miss the days when Easter Egg Hunts were even MORE fun because you had to dig through snow to find a stupid egg, just so you’d have more than your brother(s), sister(s) and cousin(s), or the other kids living around you. I miss the days when your Halloween costume was 3 sizes too small because you unexpectedly had to throw on your show suit, boots, mittens and hat beneath your “Princess” costume. I miss the days when Thanksgiving really DID involve going over the rivers and through the woods to Grandmother’s house, hoping your car didn’t slide off the side of the valley you were driving into, or off the side of the steep hill you were trying to make it up. THOSE were the days when being a kid was EXCITING. Because you got what you got, with no one trying to whip you into a frenzy over something that is never coming… THOSE were WINTERS!!! Enjoy the weather Y’all… Yours to gripe to – TJ McVay

December 12th, 2018

It’s the most wonderful time of the year; everything looks a little brighter, family means a little more to you than the rest of the year, and when it snows it’s like the icing on the cake – so that brings me to this: when you get together for holiday gatherings, and your entire family decides to each bring something, is it only MY family that ends up bagging and boxing up tons of food? After being one of the people who brought some kind of salad (potato, taco, macaroni, pasta, fruit, etc – ), meat dish, soup, veggie tray, dessert, drink or fruit for years, something happened that made my entire perspective shift from bringing something to EAT to bringing something every REALLY needed and would be happy to find: TOILET PAPER – one summer while we were at the Summer House on the Canal, enjoying family, food and the holiday, I had to use the “latrine”. Of course – all that food and drink will only stay in your for so long before it works its’ way through your system. Normal, yes. What was NOT normal was doing my business and finding there was NOTHING to “refresh” myself with once I was finished. When I was a kid, going outside and not having the “luxuries” of TP was no biggie, since there werent bathrooms or portolets lining the country roads or woods. But as an adult in a “civilized setting” – ???? WORST feeling EVER.
Ever since that day, my contribution to our family picnics and gatherings is – and always will be – TOILET PAPER.
Merry Christmas!  –  TJ McVay

December 3rd, 2018

So, this year – thanks to Tommy, my Fiance – there is a TREE in my house for Christmas. It’s been MANY years since I’ve actually had one – mainly because my two cats are CLIMBERS and would have a FIELD DAY with not only the tree, but everything on it. Initially, I figured that saying I’d get one as long as it was BLACK would knock me out of having to get one. But, thanks to today’s “adventurous” world, they actually have FAKE BLACK trees. 

Now, I wouldnt exactly call it BLACK; it looks more like a VERY dark green. But I do keep my word, and I said I would get one as long as it’s black. What I DIDN’T promise was to get something obnoxiously tall and big. So, I’ve taken two pictures of my “tree” – it’s actually sitting on my table in front of my front window.
 
So much for Christmas costing ME an arm and a leg in electric! Merry Christmas to you; 22 days until CHRISTMAS. I plan to wish everyone a MERRY CHRISTMAS as often as possible. Screw PC World. This is MY reality. 
 
TJ McVay

November 27th, 2018

“TECHNOLOGY – MAKING OUR LIVES EASIER” ???
Now, that’s pretty damned funny – as you all know, my schedule is a “bit different” than the rest of your normal people; I get to sleep by anywhere from 4-6P, get up around midnight, prep for the show with Joe in the morning and just assume that the rest of the world is running in perfect harmony with everything around it. This morning I happened to wake up and find a documentary called “Killer Robots” on HBO. Not being much of a “techie” myself, and hating that jobs with REAL people are being taken away by autonomy, I figured I’d give this program a chance. And sooooo glad I did – with everything from check out aisles at the grocery store, ATMs at banks, VOICEMAIL HELL and beyond – including cars that drive themselves while you sit and watch TV (Tesla’s FAMOUS FATAL CRASH in Florida was the most horrifying event I’d ever heard and a PRIME example of why this is SOOO wrong) – seeing a man married to a female robot because he’s “socially challenged and awkward around girls”… there comes a point when we, as HUMANS, have to say ENOUGH.
Who do you sue when those Teslas smash into another car and kill someone? Who do you blame when the computer doesn’t pay out the right amount? Who do you look at when that automated system doesn’t kick in when it’s supposed to? HUMANS. Because there’s always room for “human error”. And that’s not the worst part – the horror is that computers are making us STUPID. They’re taking away our reason to THINK. To remember the things that we always knew, or at least had to learn. Our youth no longer needs to learn how to make change because the cash register tells them how much to give back – IF they can even figure out how to do THAT at this point. Our youth no longer has to remember phone numbers because they’re stored in our cell phones. Our youth cant even SIGN their names in cursive because it’s not taught in school any longer. Dictionaries are a thing of the past; God forgive them when they actually have to try to use one if that’s all that’s available to them – and the lists go on and on.
What I find even MORE terrifying: this is the YOUTH that’s going to “take care of US” when we cant care for ourselves. Be afraid. Be VERY afraid. Personally, I’ll live on a mountain with no one around before I let any of that happen to me. The way things are going on this planet, our generation will be euthanized by 70 – if they allow us to live that long. Maybe they’ll build a computer that will do that for them also…
Thanksgiving’s over — Merry Christmas!!!
TJ McVay

September 25th, 2018

Did I mention I absolutely LOVE Halloween? I dont know about you, but this is MY favorite holiday of them all – it’s the one night of the year grown-ups can act like idiots and get away with it!
Looking back at my “Trick Or Treating” experiences, I’d have to say THE BEST was when we had moved from the farm in the backwoods of Bucks County to the borough of Northampton, where houses are pretty much stacked on top of each other on the “borough streets” and HALLOWEEN was SOOOOO amazing: people were handing out full-sized Hershey bars, Snickers, Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups, Cracker Jacks and anything else you can think of that kids love and is considered JUNK FOOD/SNACKS.
And dont even get me started on the “costumes” we had – our Mom made ours, and they were TOTALLY better than the ones you can buy at ANY Halloween store… one year I was (are you ready for this??? — ) a PRINCESS. Once and done on that one; the next year I was a football player, and the year after that I think I was an Army recruit.
In the Spirit of the HOLIDAY (yeah, I know I’m EARLY, better than being LATE!), may the ghosties and ghoulies be kind to you – but not TOO kind. May the vampires and werewolves only take small bites. Let Halloween fill your heart with the same kind of joy it gave you as a kid… because dammit we’re getting older every day!!!
Be good to each other!
TJ McVay

June 12th, 2018

I miss the days of REAL “customer service” – does anyone remember those days other than me? We’ve been talking about CUSTOMER SERVICE HELL – yesterday was yet ANOTHER day where I spent 3+ hours just trying to get my internet service running at at least HALF of what I was promised and paying $100 a month for –
I wont name the company (it’s not the company starting with a “V”  – it’s the OTHER one, and no, not Sprint – ) but once a month I spent at least 2 hours just TRYING to get someone to help me, was transfered at least 7 times each call, only to get hung up on for the last time before I totally LOST it on someone and then giving up. Yesterday I was determined to wait it out and to call as many times as I had to to get SOMEONE to help me.
Call #1: Slightly pissed and not in the mood, a bit more so after I was transfered 5 times, then hung up on after talking to 5 people who did NOT speak fluent English and were very short and rude. I was transfered to the same departments in circles before the call was “dropped”. That was about an hour of waiting.
Call #2: Blood pressure is now higher, and my brain is about to go into the RED ZONE – I was transfered by more people who couldn’t speak English clearly, had a hard time understanding me and circled me once again through departments that sent me back to the same departments that had sent me to them. I finally was told to hold for a supervisor – and then I was connected to a “sex line” where a woman was talking like I do when I mock those kind of lines, and asking me to punch in my credit card number. Yeah, I hung up. And called back a THIRD time.
Call #3: TOTALLY pissed at this point, I was rude, used the C word with the very first person I talked to (if you’re thinking the word was CANCEL, you’d be correct – I dont use that “other” c-word), was also very short and condescending because after two hours, I had had ENOUGH. I asked for a supervisor, was sent to one, who connected me – FINALLY – with the department who apparently COULD help me. “Jonathon” spent an hour with me, doing speed tests, resets, updates and did do some good. He credited me a whopping $25 on my account (the best he could do I guess, which was appreciated nonetheless) and noted that I just may need a new “Netgear NightHawk” Hot Spot box if the problem persists.
Which brings me to my FINAL comment: WTF is wrong with PA as far as “high speed internet”??? Over 800,000 of us are paying top-dollar for “high speed internet” and not getting it. Here in PA, we dont even have the ability to get a fiber-optic line with my MAJOR carrier (starting with an A, ending with a T) much less REGULAR service with that company – hence my “Hot Spot” box – it’s time to start fighting for what we’re paying for. Because I for one am tired of “getting screwed” and paying for things not supplied…
Have a fanflippintastic week! Here if you need anything, always!  – TJ McVay

May 30th, 2018

Happy Wednesday Yall! With the shortened week, and the reason it IS short, I’m sending love and many MANY thanks to our military men and women out there who sacrifice their lives and family time to make sure our families, friends and homes are all safe, and stay that way. Happy Memorial Day to ALL of you, living or otherwise –  thank you for giving me the continued freedom to think as I want, speak what I think, and to believe what I choose to believe – thank you for sacrificing your holiday time with your families so I can spend my time with MY family during the holidays; I pray for your safety, warmth and mental fortitude often, and wish there was some way I could repay the endless things you do without as you also do without sleep, hugs from loved ones and kisses on your face when they’re most needed.
At a time when “freedom” is what this country is all about – from opening our arms and hearts as well as pocketbooks to people from other countries to standing up for illegal immigrants rights – I think it’s about time our government and the liberals who all are so quick to jump to the defense of someone who doesnt belong here LEGALLY to be so fast in screaming for better wages, insurance and healthcare for our servicemen and women. Where are you when our military members are hurt and need care? Where are you when they’re living on the streets suffering from PTSD and other mental issues caused by the stress of WAR and other related issues? It breaks my heart to think that someone would be so generous to offer free housing, food, insurance, cars and many other things to someone who came into this country illegally, yet wont take a stand for our OWN – I have family who served in the military; my brother-in-law SSG Michael Grim served 20+ years and retired, only to take a position doing the same thing as a retired-military-now-civilian employee… my Uncle Jim Gardner, Uncle Mike Gardner and Uncle Pete Gardner all did tours in Viet Nam while the war was raging. My Father was on a ship in the Navy during Viet Nam as well. Not to mention my Father’s relation who also served when they first came to America from Ireland. And I have nothing but respect for all of them for giving so freely for a country that meant so very much to them.
And that’s why I’m asking for our country – this great United States of America – to start GIVING BACK to our military members. LOVE them. Give them what they DESERVE. Take CARE of them when they come back different than when they signed those papers to give of themselves. Is it so hard to give to those who deserve it BEFORE we give to those who DONT? Our military members were BORN here. RAISED here. Made the choice to fight for us and our homeland. Our country should do the same in return. THREEFOLD.
That’s just my thoughts on what our servicemen and women DESERVE. Thank you to ALL of you who continue to fight for us. I wish I could do more than write down what I feel you deserve. I wish I could GIVE you what you need AND deserve. Because it’s so much more than what you’re given now…  – TJ McVay

May 17th, 2018

Today is the day that I celebrate the ONE  THING I managed to do right: give BIRTH to a baby… and that baby is MY baby, and my only child, Barry.
You know how “they” always say it’s a pain you never remember? It was THE MOST excruciating pain I’ve ever experienced… and as far as pain goes, I’m the REIGNING QUEEN of being able to handle pain – CHILDBIRTH isnt PAIN — childbirth is TORTURE.
I have to tell you ladies who “went in and the baby practically dropped out of you”: how did you DO that? I was in the hospital for over 27 hours, and they finally decided to YANK him out of me with a forceps, because Barry was NOT coming out.
Guys, those of you who have actually SEEN a baby being born know it’s not “easy”. You know it’s not “fun”. And you probably know in your heart-of-hearts that the pain we women go through to actually keep this planet populated is NOT the easiest, nor most fun, thing to do. Actually, if someone had given me a choice between childbirth and having every single rib broken in at least one place – I’d have chosen the BROKEN RIBS. And “they” also say that when you look look into your newborn’s eyes you forget every single rib kick, morning-sick-eat-everything-you-see-and-gain-100-pounds day — all I can respond with is WTF??? WHY do these lies continue?
In all actuality, every woman should have to watch one video of an episiotomy, a caesarean delivery and a woman who’s screaming for 24 hours while trying to push something the size of a watermelon out of a place that never gets that big BEFORE having sex with ANYONE – just to see the risks of actually HAVING sex.
But with all that being said – my son is handsome, smart, hard-working with great work ethics and now happily married. WITH NO CHILDREN. Yet. This too shall eventually happen.
My NEXT crisis: NO ONE’S calling me grandma, Mawmaw, Meemaw, Memmy. Grammy, Nana, Gram or even Grandmother. I’ve already mused over what this child will be addressing me as: TiTi. And THAT is NOT negotiable.
For more on my “ramblings”, please see “tjhasissuesandtheyreserious.com” —
have a great rest of the week!!! And Happy Birthday to my Son, Barry ELVIN Kibler, Jr… not MY choice of names either (blame that one on his dad – I wanted to name him PonyBoy!)…  – TJ McVay

May 4th, 2018

In a world full of “SHEEP”, I choose to be an “ASS” – not in the “obvious” way, as in IDIOT, but rather in a “stubborn-I’m-gonna-do-my-own-thing” way. Like donkeys – but that wouldnt have gotten your attention as quickly, would it???
Here’s an example: Bill tells me I shouldnt say Baltimore the way it’s pronounced, because then I sound like I’m not “from” here… NEWSFLASH: (but no surprise to yall) I’m NOT. I cant say “Ballduhmore”, nor can I say “Ballimore” – I’m an ENGLISH MAJOR. I went to High School in Northampton (yes, PA). Which is close to Bethlehem. Not “BETHLUM”, as those who were born and raised there pronounce it. And it totally irks me when I hear someone on the local news call it “North Hampton”, as if it’s TWO WORDS. It’s ONE. And no where in the spelling do I see two “H’s”.
Y’all have NO idea the HORROR I feel when I mispronounce something… TYPOS are even WORSE, because now it’s written down on paper, and can kept forever and used against me at any given time in the future… the mere thought of it makes me cringe!
Dont get me wrong – I have my own slang when I’m having a great time and just shootin’ the BS with friends, family and those of you who listen (who I consider family as well, which is why I’m so comfortable being ME with yall!), but when it comes to telling the facts in news, traffic or anything that’s SERIOUS, I like to sound like I have at least half a brain.
So next time, when you hear me “slaughter” a word on the air, just know that inside, I’m dying…
Enjoy your weekend!!! And thanks for popping in and reading my ever-so-random-and-rambling blogs!!!  – TJ

April 27th, 2018

Because it’s been a while since I’ve actually lived in a HOUSE (Dungeons were my best choice since they were contained with not a lot of room, nor windows to let the heat/cold into/out of your place), I’m once again experiencing that feeling you get when there’s more to take care of other than just cleaning –
like YARDS. Shrubs. “Landscaping”. Raking. Edging. Did I mention I really REALLY dont like doing “outside work”??
So, never having really “done” outside work, how do you get rid of those “holes” that are in your yard? Do you fill them with sod and sprinkle grass seeds all over??? I have an idea how to edge, cut grass and trim – that’s all the easy stuff. But to be perfectly honest, I always did the INSIDE work and the hubby did the OUTSIDE things. Which leaves me in the dark, at least a bit. WTH??? If ANYONE has any “words of wisdom” to share, please feel free to hit me up on the Rocky 98.5 FB page (message me!) – I could use a little “guidance” on this one! And seriously – when a woman ASKS for “help”, we REALLY need it, because that means we have to admit we’re “lacking” in an area…
Have a great weekend, yall!!!   – TJ McVay

February 16th, 2018

3…2…1… ahhhhhhhhh – Friday, the best day of the week when you’re a “Monday-through-Friday’er”!!! Second ONLY to “Friday OFF” –
The Olympics have been on for almost a week; is anyone watching them? I remember when I was a kid – we’d sit with our Mom and that was “the night’s TV TIME”. Does that even happen any longer? Are the Olympics running out of steam? Are they as exciting as they used to be to us when we were kids? As an adult (debatable at times, yes I know), I’m “just not into” them. I will record each broadcast and fast-forward through the minutes in case there’s something I’m waiting for. But other than that I’m pretty much UNintrigued by the games these days. Wish I could say the same about Survivor, Hell’s Kitchen, Channel Zero: Butcher’s Block, AHS, GoT – you get it, I know…
Enjoy your weekend – go do something that will make you feel wicked. Or happy. Or fulfilled. Or needed. Or thankful. And yeah, again, you get it, I know…!!!  — TJ McVay

February 14th, 2018

Happy Valentines Day!!! Or IS it really a “HAPPY” day, if you think about how it REALLY started???
​Straight from the pages of History.com, here’s the REAL story on “Valentine’s Day”:

​The history of Valentine’s Day–and the story of its patron saint–is shrouded in mystery. We do know that February has long been celebrated as a month of romance, and that St. Valentine’s Day, as we know it today, contains vestiges of both Christian and ancient Roman tradition. But who was Saint Valentine, and how did he become associated with this ancient rite?The Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred. One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine’s actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.

Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons, where they were often beaten and tortured. According to one legend, an imprisoned Valentine actually sent the first “valentine” greeting himself after he fell in love with a young girl–possibly his jailor’s daughter–who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter signed “From your Valentine,” an expression that is still in use today. Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories all emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic and–most importantly–romantic figure. By the Middle Ages, perhaps thanks to this reputation, Valentine would become one of the most popular saints in England and France.

​The stories go on – to get the FULL look at the REAL DEAL on Valentine’s Day, go to:
Enjoy your “Love Day”! May Cupid shoot you hard with his arrow, aimed straight at your heart!!!  — TJ McVay

February 13th, 2018

I have been REMISS at keeping up on days; did you ever wake up and just have that feeling your day was NOT going to go the way you want it to? Yeah, welcome to my life at least once a week, lol!
You know I’m a HUGE fan of movies and series on cable TV; Starz has a new series out called “Counterpart”. J.K. Simmons, Olivia Williams, other cast members who I’ve never seen in anything else in this series about an alternate Earth that was created when an experiment copied our planet, including everything and everyone on it. So there were doubles, and of course a way to go from one “world” to the other. Doorways, etc. But the “alternate” Earth has some nastier diseases that can kill the people living in it, and of course there are plot twists, doubles changing lives in the other’s world, etc. J.K. Simmons should get nominated for TWO awards in the same category for successfully pulling off BOTH roles. He went from playing “the Nazi you HATED” on OZ, to the Farmers Insurance Rep in commercials to this amazing role – if you havent had a chance to check out the series and you have Starz, make sure to give it a look!
Enjoy the rest of your day, and here if you need anything – always!  – TJ McVay

February 7th, 2018

Now that things have settled down in Philly, and the Superbowl trophy is in a FRESH NEW city for a change, I can BREATHE a little easier and enjoy the NFL once again – the same team winning/creating “Gates” in Championship games gets OLD and BORING – !!!
Let’s shift this conversation to YOU: how’s 2018 treating YOU? Sure, you’re probably tired of the cold temperatures. And I’m sure after this morning you’re WAY OVER the ice, sleet, and freezing rain that we have to deal with on our way to and from home to work and vice-versa… but here’s the ONE good thing about WINTER and the COLD we should ALL agree on: these cold temperatures kill BUGS!!!
I know there are some good ones out there, but, TICKS? Ugh. WTH – what DO they DO, really? They’re parasites that suck the very fluid that keeps us alive from our bodies, and sometimes leave us something in return: LYME DISEASE. And how about those “stink bugs”? Just what IS their major beneficial function, or good thing they do for ANY of us? I’m thinking: NOTHING. Not a single thing. And then we an go into the COCKROACH category, which is extra-gross — other than those humongous hissing ones, they’re just creepy and, in my opinion, a little too fast for my liking. Those are just the bugs that come to my mind first – imagine all of them I dont even know about… then this slams into my brain: I really REALLY like the darkness…
But so do COCKROACHES. Imagine MY nightmares – *shivering*
Have a great Wednesday yall!!! — TJ

February 5th, 2018

Sooooooo – KUDOS going out to our PA Eagles for winning their very first Super Bowl Trophy; it’s been a long time coming, gentlemen – and you worked SO hard for this one. Here’s MY reasons why I wanted the Eagles to WIN Super Bowl 52:
1. They’re a PA team!
2. They kept NE from tying Super Bowl wins at 6 with my Steelers!
3. This is my SON’S team; you ALWAYS want your son to be happy!
4. Nick Fowles – need I say MORE???
Nick Fowles just may be my NEW Favorite player (of course, right behind Clay Matthews!); that man didnt show ONE SIGN of cracking under pressure. He didnt infect his team with anxiety, he didnt fluff, he didnt get flustered – even when things got a  but “tight” as far as the score went. So yeah – this guy is not only as cool as a cucumber, but also just a REAL. NICE. guy.
And more “high fives” to the ENTIRE Eagles team; rumor has it a lot of you played with the flu – and PLAY you all did! You brought a PULSE back to Philly; you gave your fans something they always wanted but never had: that Super Bowl Trophy! THIS woman appreciates the hard work and “never say die” attitude you all brought along to Minneapolis… looking forward to a PA Super Bowl next year: Steelers vs. Eagles!!!
Hang in there; today I feel ALL yalls pain… I need a NAP!   – TJ McVay